I will survive! (hopefully) XD

Inspired by a post i just read at Blurtitout.org – DEPRESSION: 10 QUOTES WHICH HELP US THROUGH TOUGH DAYS

“The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.”
– Juliette Lewis

Saw the above quote that makes me wonder, all those times i survived a breakdown, was i brave or just scared to leave this world~ ^^” I’ve had a friend who once said i was strong.. i’m always skeptical about that.. was i strong..? i thought i was just a coward for fearing death~ i mean, you never know what’s on the other side, especially for someone who has no faith in religion like me.. ideally i’d simply stop existing. BUT if my “appointed” religion happens to be the real deal, then for sure i’d be tossed into hell.. and if that really were to happen, i might as well i continue living in this world and try enjoy what little happiness i can find first..? tho yea, they say depression is almost like having hell inside your head already.. but i think hell if really exist will be depression x 2 at least? O.o better to play safe and try stay alive as long as possible..

I don’t know what made me continue living.. maybe it’s the fear that hell might exist. i felt like i was trapped inside a glass cage. people outside looking at me, laughing, leering, condescending~ but one day, finally, someone nice reached out to me from another side of the cage.. it was amazing to meet someone so understanding, so accepting~ so years ago, when i broke down, I kept telling myself..

Don’t.. Don’t do it.. angel will be so sad.. you don’t want to make angel sad..
angel already has so much problem.. don’t upset angel…

i survived that breakdown. but the next thing i know, the troubled angel had to let go. it felt terrible then – to be left alone again to face all the meanies outside.. i thought we could help each other~ i don’t hate or blame the angel. on the contrary, i still worry for her and always wish her well~ i just felt useless for not being able to help.. it’s hard to help someone who couldn’t talk to you..

And so, the next breakdown i had after that incident, i somehow overcome it without any support. as usual, there’s no one to calm me down or talk to me. but the problem is that by then, i can’t even give myself a reason as to why i shouldn’t do anything harmful. so i don’t know how i somehow survived that breakdown really.. not trying to blow my own trumpet, but i’m still amazed and wonder how the hell i passed that day.. it’s weird~ there were so many tempting factors. so many theories i knew that can help me successfully end this life.. i don’t know how i avoided trying anything that day though.. Maybe that was when i came up with the don’t go to hell yet idea~? ^^”

every other day, i can hear those meanies, but i distance myself away from them by not looking at them.. there’s also bloody tim in my head to deal with.. i distract myself by playing games. but it doesn’t change the fact that they exist. i may not hear them much, but i still recall sometimes. it’s hard not to. easy for people to tell me “don’t think about it”.. well, i’m the one with depression, so yea~ you don’t tell someone with cancer to stop producing cancerous cells right? O.o i’m tired of hearing such advice~ =__=” I was lucky during my last breakdown~ i told a friend –

“i’ve lost faith in religion, family, counselor, friends, and doctor.
i don’t even know what’s keeping me alive.”

kinda odd to say that to a friend hey..? ^^” but yea, i’m glad she was there for me to text to.. i somehow made it through that day.. and somehow slowly improve little by little. took me about a month-ish to feel “normal” again.. kinda makes me envious of people who can simply “don’t care about them” or “don’t think about it”.. wish it’s that easy for me~

For now it feels like my cage is expanding.. feels like there’s more space for me to move around.. in fact it’s almost starting to feel like i can walk in parallel with those people on the outside.. makes me kinda hopeful.. and scared.. hehe.. after more than 10yrs of crap, it can be scary to get hopeful~ 😄 so i’m prepared for the worst.. just in case this cage starts shrinking again.. just in case the glass gets thin again and i can hear the meanies outside clearly again~ that’s probably why i kinda.. errr.. shut myself out~ ^^” or it is box myself in? lol~ when surrounded by people who can’t understand, trying to explain to them each time and failing every time can really add on to the negative feelings~

Many people tend to tell me to think positive~ i think they still don’t get the part about how, with depression, it’s hard to JUST think positive. when you’ve been falling down over and over and over again for 10yrs, rather than think positive, i’d rather think practical. I’d rather be prepared for the worst, so that when it happens, it’ll be kinda, “expected”.. i’ll not be too shocked or too hurt or too surprised by the fact that i’m breaking down, again. I know people avoid me for not being a very positive person~ it’s their choice, and i can’t help it. i avoid the positive-to-a-fault people too~ 😄 i prefer practical/ready-for-rainy-days people~

I must remember, i have to put myself first before others – because when i fall, there’s usually no one there for me but myself. I have to protect myself to live~

“You just keep living, until you feel alive again.” – Jennifer Worth

Badges and Keychains now available at VivoCity & *Scape Underground! Happy Valentine’s Day!!

Badges @ VivoCity ToyOutpost

Available at ToyOutpost – Vivo City Shopping Mall
(near Golden Village Cinema)
1 Harbourfront Walk, Vivocity #02-27
Singapore 098585
Sun – Thur: 11am to 9.30pm
Fri & Sat: 11am to 10pm
Eve of Public Holiday: 11pm to 10pm

Mini Badges @ *Scape Underground

Available at The Gift Xchange at *Scape Underground: *SCAPE Underground, 2 Orchard Link
Singapore 237978
Mon – Thu: 12:00 pm – 9:00 pm
Fri – Sun: 11:00 am – 10:00 pm

Hey hey~ been busy these few days.. go some last minute projects like a rush proj of 100 custom badges (due last week) and a couple’s tee to be given for wedding gift (due these 2 weeks).. These, on top of having to design tshirts for my best friend’s wedding (by May latest)~ and i think i need to hurry up on the accounts for tax filing later (i think in march-april?)..

plus i’m supposed to get my badge machine repaired.. something i can’t do if it’s raining.. (can’t risk walking in the rain with the machine.. dun wanna damage it.. and i gotta get it fixed if i wanna top up my stocks of badges for the end of the month, and for over at VivoCity ToyOutpost and The Gift Xchange @ *Scape Underground..

Yep!! My keychains and badges are out on consignment at 2 shops at the moment!! =D Excuse the poorly taken pix.. am using an old htc wildfire which i adopted from my bro.. the camera is certainly nowhere near my late old sony ericsson phone camera.. ¬_¬ think i wanna get myself a sony xperia when i have the time.. can’t afford iphone.. to expensive for poor blokes like myself~

Our pushcart will reopen for business later end of this month – 23rd-24th March, at VivoCity, Level One – West Court. Our official timing is 11am-10pm as usual but just in case i’m slow in setting up (getting old), it’s always best to dropby noon onwards.. hehe.. ^^”

Frozenfa & Karin Taylor Pushcart Opening Dates

Oh, what rainy Valentine’s Day~ Try this!! Make a cuppa hot chocolate (one more if you are a pair of couples who happen to be free enough to read this blog..) and snuggle up and check out this cute Multi-Award Winning stop motion animation, Zero, by  Australian husband and wife filmmaking duo, Christopher and Christine Kezeloschest!! Seriously, LOVE IT!!! It’s sweet, heartwarming.. encouraging.. I say it’s perfect for both couples and singles!! =D i can’t imagine the amount of time and effort they have to put in.. Gotta respect them!! =D

Ok everyone!! Have a lovely Valentine’s Day everyone!! Stay warm~ ^_^

SOLD PRODUCTS from Frozenfa and SilentCries @ Zazzle.com!! =D

WOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOO!!! Hope everyone had an awesome X’mas and New Year Celebration!! =D

i just realised i haven’t post any sales update for my Zazzle stores since July 2010!! O_O” eep.. i honestly thought i did do one update last year.. ^^” oh well, here are the sales i’ve made since then!! X)

Thank you Kathlene from Costa Mesa, CA for purchasing (frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt shirt
(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Mason from Tucson, AZ for purchasing (julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain by frozenfa

(julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain keychain
(julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain by frozenfa

Thank you Erin from Naples, FL for purchasing You don’t see me, You won’t see me! Binder by silentcries

You don't see me, You won't see me! Binder binder
You don’t see me, You won’t see me! Binder by silentcries

Thank you Nikki from Miramar, FL for purchasing (tim-b09) I Love Me Button by frozenfa

(tim-b09) I Love Me Button button
(tim-b09) I Love Me Button by frozenfa

Thank you Suzanne from Winooski, VT for purchasing (schm-st01) Schmoo Sticker by frozenfa

(schm-st01) Schmoo Sticker sticker
(schm-st01) Schmoo Sticker by frozenfa

Thank you Nguyen from Grenoble, France for purchasing (cfraz-mg01) Chibi Frazzle Mug by frozenfa

(cfraz-mg01) Chibi Frazzle Mug mug
(cfraz-mg01) Chibi Frazzle Mug by frozenfa

Thank you Christine from Raleigh, NC for purchasing (ken-gc01) Kenny by the Beach Card by frozenfa

(ken-gc01) Kenny by the Beach Card card
(ken-gc01) Kenny by the Beach Card by frozenfa

Thank you Sandra from Mosman, Australia for purchasing Yuriko-chan by frozenfa

Yuriko-chan shirt
Yuriko-chan by frozenfa

Thank you Normand from Hobe Sound, FL for purchasing Lil’ Frazzle Meows~ Poster by frozenfa

Lil' Frazzle Meows~ Poster print
Lil’ Frazzle Meows~ Poster by frozenfa

Thank you Matthew from Orlando, FL for purchasing (tim-mg11) I Love Me Mug by frozenfa

(tim-mg11) I Love Me Mug mug
(tim-mg11) I Love Me Mug by frozenfa

Thank you Ribena from London, United Kingdom for purchasing Dear Pillow… T-Shirt by silentcries

Dear Pillow... T-Shirt shirt
Dear Pillow… T-Shirt by silentcries

Thank you Irene from Waterford, Ireland for purchasing (tim-mg11) I Love Me Mug by frozenfa

(tim-mg11) I Love Me Mug mug
(tim-mg11) I Love Me Mug by frozenfa

Thank you Dennis from Billerica, MA for purchasing (tim-t46) Tim in Red Kids T-Shirt by frozenfa

(tim-t46) Tim in Red Kids T-Shirt shirt
(tim-t46) Tim in Red Kids T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Beth from Yachats, OR for purchasing a customized (tim-sb01) Happily Twisted & Mental Skateboard by frozenfa

(tim-sb01) Happily Twisted & Mental Skateboard skateboard
(tim-sb01) Happily Twisted & Mental Skateboard by frozenfa

Thank you Jodi from Wilton Manors, FL for purchasing (mewr-s1) Love You! Sticker by frozenfa

(mewr-s1) Love You! Sticker sticker
(mewr-s1) Love You! Sticker by frozenfa

Thank you Sandee from Castle Rock, WA for purchasing (mewr-mg03) Love You Mug by frozenfa

(mewr-mg03) Love You Mug mug
(mewr-mg03) Love You Mug by frozenfa

Thank you Daniel from Münster, Germany for purchasing (mewr-s1) Love You! Sticker by frozenfa

(mewr-s1) Love You! Sticker sticker
(mewr-s1) Love You! Sticker by frozenfa

Thank you Sarah from Marquette, MI for purchasing (julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain by frozenfa

(julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain keychain
(julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain by frozenfa

Thank you Sherrie from Richmond, CA for purchasing (schm-t01) Schmoo Kids T-Shirt by frozenfa

(schm-t01) Schmoo Kids T-Shirt shirt
(schm-t01) Schmoo Kids T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Scott from Midland, Australia for purchasing a customized (julian-mg01) Julian – The Rasta Crab Mug by frozenfa

(julian-mg01) Julian - The Rasta Crab Mug mug
(julian-mg01) Julian – The Rasta Crab Mug by frozenfa

Thank you Ryan from Manchester, NH for purchasing (cfraz-k03) Chibi Frazzle Meows Keychain by frozenfa

(cfraz-k03) Chibi Frazzle Meows Keychain keychain
(cfraz-k03) Chibi Frazzle Meows Keychain by frozenfa

Thank you Krista from Gurnee, IL for purchasing (frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt shirt
(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Susan from Tecumseh, MI for purchasing (frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt shirt
(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Anthony from Edinburgh, United Kingdom for purchasing Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Julian - the rasta crab shirt
Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Thank you Peter from Lisburn, United Kingdom, for purchasing (SF-03) Summer Fun T-Shirt by frozenfa

(SF-03) Summer Fun T-Shirt shirt
(SF-03) Summer Fun T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Alexis from Fairbanks, AK for purchasing pc05) Life In The City Postcard by frozenfa

(pc05) Life In The City Postcard postcard
(pc05) Life In The City Postcard by frozenfa

Thank you Sang from Thousand Oaks, CA for purchasing I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

I Love You~ Card card
I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

Thank you Damian from Rockdale, Australia for purchasing (tim-t37) Hello!!! T-Shirt by frozenfa

(tim-t37) Hello!!! T-Shirt shirt
(tim-t37) Hello!!! T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Matthias from Göteborg, Sweden for purchasing You won’t see me! Poster by silentcries

You won't see me! Poster print
You won’t see me! Poster by silentcries

Thank you Lynda from Leicester, United Kingdom for purchasing customized (frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt shirt
(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Matthew from Rockville, MD for purchasing (julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain by frozenfa

(julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain keychain
(julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain by frozenfa

Thank you Earlene from Southwest Ranches, FL for purchasing customized (mewr-s1) Love You! Sticker by frozenfa

(mewr-s1) Love You! Sticker sticker
(mewr-s1) Love You! Sticker by frozenfa

Super big THANK YOU to Patti from Tampa, FL for purchasing 25 customized (julian-mp02) Hermit Julian Mousepad by frozenfa

(julian-mp02) Hermit Julian Mousepad mousepad
(julian-mp02) Hermit Julian Mousepad by frozenfa

Thank you Praveen from Kirkland, WA for purchasing (frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt shirt
(frothie-t) Frothie T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Pourpoint from Verneuil Sur Seine, France for purchasing customized (cfraz-b02) Chibi Frazzle Button by frozenfa

(cfraz-b02) Chibi Frazzle Button button
(cfraz-b02) Chibi Frazzle Button by frozenfa

Thank you Christopher from Pembroke, United Kingdom for purchasing (tim-gc05) Missing You~ Card by frozenfa

(tim-gc05) Missing You~ Card card
(tim-gc05) Missing You~ Card by frozenfa

Thank you Ng from Footscray, Australia for purchasing customized I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

I Love You~ Card card
I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

Thank you Elizabeth from Rye, NY for purchasing a pair of (ken-gc01) Kenny by the Beach Card by frozenfa

(ken-gc01) Kenny by the Beach Card card
(ken-gc01) Kenny by the Beach Card by frozenfa

Thank you Monique from Stamford, CT for purchasing Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Julian - the rasta crab shirt
Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Thank you Carol from London, United Kingdom for purchasing Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Julian - the rasta crab shirt
Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Thank you Reima from Swansea, United Kingdom for purchasing (cfraz-t01) Chibi Frazzle T-Shirt by frozenfa

(cfraz-t01) Chibi Frazzle T-Shirt shirt
(cfraz-t01) Chibi Frazzle T-Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Linda from Ann Arbor, MI for purchasing No Discount?! Button by frozenfa

No Discount?! Button button
No Discount?! Button by frozenfa

Thank you Debbie from Moorpark, CA for purchasing With Love – (Emily) Sticker by frozenfa

With Love - (Emily) Sticker sticker
With Love – (Emily) Sticker by frozenfa

Thank you Kimberly from Killingworth, CT for purchasing a customized Holy Cow! Avery Binder by frozenfa

Holy Cow! Avery Binder binder
Holy Cow! Avery Binder by frozenfa

Thank you Clive from Cwmbran, United Kingdom for purchasing You don’t see me~ T-Shirt by silentcries

You don't see me~ T-Shirt shirt
You don’t see me~ T-Shirt by silentcries

Thank You So Much to Jessica from Van Nuys, CA for purchasing…

5 customized (tim-t40) ARGH!!! T-Shirt by frozenfa

(tim-t40) ARGH!!! T-Shirt shirt

3 customized (tim-t40) ARGH!!! T-Shirt by frozenfa

(tim-t40) ARGH!!! T-Shirt shirt

a customized (tim-t40) ARGH!!! T-Shirt by frozenfa

(tim-t40) ARGH!!! T-Shirt shirt

a customized (tim-t40) ARGH!!! T-Shirt by frozenfa

(tim-t40) ARGH!!! T-Shirt shirt

Thank you Jörg from Sontra, Germany for purchasing customized I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

I Love You~ Card card
I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

Thank you Eileen from Honolulu, HI for purchasing customized (mewr-stp01) You Are Invited Stamps by frozenfa

(mewr-stp01) You Are Invited Stamps stamp
(mewr-stp01) You Are Invited Stamps by frozenfa

Thank you Gatellier from Gien, France for purchasing (schm-b01) Schmoo Button by frozenfa

(schm-b01) Schmoo Button button
(schm-b01) Schmoo Button by frozenfa

Thank you Emese from Bainbridge, NY for purchasing Support Bacteria! Bumper Sticker by frozenfa

Support Bacteria! Bumper Sticker bumpersticker
Support Bacteria! Bumper Sticker by frozenfa

Thank you Mabel from Jackson Heights, NY for purchasing (tim-b13) Love You~ Button by frozenfa

(tim-b13) Love You~ Button button
(tim-b13) Love You~ Button by frozenfa

Thank you Jason from Pemberton, NJ for purchasing In You Have No Patience… iPhone 4 Case by silentcries

In You Have No Patience... iPhone 4 Case speckcase
In You Have No Patience… iPhone 4 Case by silentcries

Thank you Shannon from Stockton On Tees, United Kingdom for purchasing customized I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

I Love You~ Card card
I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

Thank you Isabella from Eastbourne, United Kingdom for purchasing customized I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

I Love You~ Card card
I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

Thank you Lisa from Spring, TX purchasing Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Julian - the rasta crab shirt
Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Thank you Yiliang from Rochester, NY for purchasing Customizable Couple’s iPhone 4 Case (His) by frozenfa and Customizable Couple’s iPhone 4 Case (Hers) by frozenfa

Customizable Couple's iPhone 4 Case (His) speckcase
Customizable Couple’s iPhone 4 Case (His) by frozenfa

Customizable Couple's iPhone 4 Case (Hers) speckcase
Customizable Couple’s iPhone 4 Case (Hers) by frozenfa

Thank you Andreas from Wangen, Switzerland for purchasing customized Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Julian - the rasta crab shirt
Julian – the rasta crab by frozenfa

Thank you Melissa from Sierra Vista, AZ for purchasing (tim-b10) Hug? Button by frozenfa

(tim-b10) Hug? Button button
(tim-b10) Hug? Button by frozenfa

Thank you Nhien from San Diego, CA for purchasing Wear Your Feelings! – Shirt by frozenfa

Wear Your Feelings! - Shirt shirt
Wear Your Feelings! – Shirt by frozenfa

Thank you Molly from San Diego, CA for purchasing I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

I Love You~ Card card
I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

Thank you Emma from Perth, Australia for purchasing I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

I Love You~ Card card
I Love You~ Card by frozenfa

Thank you Dana from Franklin, IN for purchasing customized (julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain by frozenfa

(julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain keychain
(julian-k2) Julian, Rasta Crab Keychain by frozenfa

Thank you so so SO MUCH to everyone who have visited and purchased from Frozenfa and SilentCries Store over at Zazzle!!! I’m so proud to announce that to date, there has been 98342 visits at Frozenfa and 10614 visits at SilentCries!!! i think Frozenfa also got listed in the homepage as Featured Seller twice so far.. i’m truly touched.. This year will be my fourth year over at Zazzle.com!

Thank you so much to Zazzle.com for the opportunities to  sell my designs on your super cool range of products and also for awarding me with a Basic ProSeller badge! Awww… X) wish i can hug you guys… ^^”

I’ll work hard this year to upload my latest designs into different products and create even more designs!! Thank you so much, once again, to all my supporters!!!!

A Book Signing Session & unARThodox : The Art of D.Lauchengco

With the release of D.Lauchengco & Iyta’s book ‘The Boy Who Hated The Sun’ & ‘The Girl Who Loved The Sun’…They are having a book signing session & a mini exhibition…’unARThodox’ : The Art of D.Lauchengco

Other event highlights would be an informal talk/meet-n-greet session by D.Lauchengco & wife Iyta on the process and message behind their first Children’s Book collaboration and D.Lauchengco’s Original Illustrations which would be open to Q & A’s and F0R SALE to friends,fans & the general public alike….so please mark your calendars and join them @ Straits Records.

Date & Time :
25th June (Sat) 4pm – 10pm
26th June (Sun) 1pm – 8pm

Location:
Straits Records
24 Bali Lane,Singapore 189860

3rd year on RedBubble… Thank you, Karin! =D

Eheh.. after reading Karin’s journal, i just realised that it’s been 3 years since i first joined RB!! O_O wow… it’s been really fun.. I was so afraid when i left the corporate world last time.. not knowing where to go in life.. but thanks to Ganz i was introduced to redbubble.. and from there, i met so many lovely people!! One of which inspire and gave me so much strength and encouragement.. her name is familiar to many here in RB.. Karin Taylor~

Yep! i’m ever so glad and thankful and grateful that i met her and we became friends not long after we both joined RB.. hehe.. it’s been such a cute journey.. i love Karin’s paintings the moment i first saw them..

   

and i’m so flattered when Karin likes my lil monster’s stupid humor.. ^^” Karin continued being my friend, even when my depression got the worse of me.. and i can hardly exists on RB.. she gave me the confidence to start my SilentCries Series.. of which i’ll be uploading into my frozenfa account on redbubble in awhile, so that i don’t need to maintain 2 accounts, since RB now supports categorizing of portfolios..

it was also thanks to Karin, who somehow happen to chance upon the contact number of someone in the management, that i manage to join PaTH – Pop and Talent Hub in Singapore and start up a physical stall!!

Karin too gave me the permission to be her sorta reseller here in Singapore.. i feel really fortunate and thankful to have found such a kind and talented friend.. X)

Now before i head off to sleep, to every artists and craftwoman/man out there who bullies… Stop bullying!!!

You’re pathetic if you have to resort to bullying your competition in hope that people will purchase from you instead. i really despise businessman/woman who resort to petty schemes in an attempt to pull down their competitor. instead of putting in effort to better yourself, you trying to bring other’s down? The outcome will still be the same. you’re the same old fellow no better than you were before your “competitor” falls. of course, i won’t be surprised if many business people out there don’t agree with me..

Competitors are EVERYWHERE. if you wanna regard someone as a competitor whom you must beat, all the best. You have a whole world of designer to compete against. There will always be someone better than you, and someone doing waaaaaay better than you. Even the best can’t hold reign forever.

“Competition brings out the best in products and the worst in people. ~David Sarnoff”

Personally, i’ve given up on pitting myself against other people. Even if i win someone, there’ll be a million others to win against next. i’ll never be happy. So i’ve always challenge myself instead. I work hard to make my new products better than my old ones. If silly customers keep “bathing” with their necklaces, i work on making it more waterproof. honestly? till now i’m not satisfied with the tile pendants.. i wish can do glass melting or metal welding or buy trays for all, but then the selling price will have to increase, and we all know, in singapore, it’s hard to make a living if you’re selling things too expensive. “Complaining” is our national hobby.. 😄 if there’s new style to try i’ll try the new style and when people like it, i make more. in this case, i’ve started selling filigree necklaces.. i work on improving my own sales for each weekend-stall rather than try beat other shops.

of course there are many days when business is poor. especially when shoppers have big budgets. they’ll naturally rather shop in boutiques and branded shops than pushcarts. there’re also days when sales is awesome for other vendors but just slow for me. sometimes i’d envy them., these days, i just feel happy for them. i can’t be bothered to be jealous, cos they are selling their designs. if the shoppers that weekend happen to like their stuffs, i can’t expect them to also happen to like my stuffs. sometimes, i’m the one that gets good sales because the shoppers that weekend in the area happens to be shoppers that likes mine and karin’s design. there is no point in being jealous of other people’s business.. envy them if you must.. then work hard on improving your on sales, your own design. not waste time trying to bring other people down.

“Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?” ~Abraham Lincoln

if you have a handmade-jewelery stall, are you going to regard another jewelery stall beside yours as your competition? how about the jewelery shops in the mall..? then how about the jewelery shops in the country? the world? you’ll never be satisfied or happy if you spend your life trying to bring all of them down. Instead, work hard to keep improving your own art/craft. Do lots of marketing and networking. Play nice, and you’ll have more allies than enemies. You never know when you might need their help. Heck, if you’re nice, some might even offer you help before you ask for one! So Play Nice Online and Offline! Stop Bullying!

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